At a party, two friends in a heterosexual relationship were dancing with each other to an upbeat song, and they noticed that the guy always grinds behind the girl. One of them asked my girlfriend and I (both of us are femme-presenting cis women) who dances in the back and who dances in the front when we go to parties. We were both very uncomfortable, because that's something we hadn't even thought about. It was clear what our friend was really asking was the heteronormative and outdated question of who the man in our relationship is...
When working in a group with two men and one other woman I make a point which the two men then say is dumb. A few moments later one of them makes basically the same point and the other one agrees with him. The other female points this out saying 'hey she just said that but you interupted her and said it was stupid' which they both then deny. The rest of the meeting is spent with them continually not letting either of the females finish their points. It's like they don't believe that women might have something intelligent to say.
A couple semesters ago I went to a film screening for a language class. The visiting language students who run the screenings (who aren't here anymore) chose a movie that basically depicted two men sexually assaulting young women for the entire two hours. The worst part was that the movie was meant to be a comedy and the visiting language students were laughing all the way through.
One of my professors tells little joke stories sometimes during class. Last week, he told a whole story that jut revolved around him making fun of a family because they were overweight. There was no other point to the story. People's bodies aren't puchlines.
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